quic: changes for nghttp3_conn_close_stream2

[martenrichter]

nghttp2 will introduce a version 2 callback
and function for closing streams.
This prepares node.js for the change.
Other changes may be required for
its full potential.

[nodejs-github-bot]

Review requested:

• @nodejs/quic

[martenrichter]

@pimtery @jasnell Not to be merged now. It is to be prepared when newer nghttp3 arrives in node.js
Also cherry picking on the update PR is possible.

[martenrichter]

Expect building to fail until the update.

[martenrichter]

The newer nghttp3 had been merged. Separate from this also ngtcp3 needs an update to address the changes.
It is on my TODO list, but I am chasing again another race condition in sendpendingdata....., so will take a while.

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✅ Project coverage is 90.30%. Comparing base (e2d7b34) to head (6875095).
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[martenrichter]

I have also added the ngtcp2 change.
It seems we should think perspectively about changing the QuicError interface, since we can have two independent error codes simultaneously on the tx and rx sides. This may be useful for low-level implementation. Though not pressing for this PR.